Put everything but these words out of your mind for just a moment. Get rid of any thoughts of work, projects at home, hopes, dreams, and side-hustles. Resist the urge to skim these lines. Focus for just a few moments. I would like for you to stop and ask yourself a question.
Are you ready?
Okay, here it is.
I want you to ask yourself “How am I right now?”.
What do you feel when you ask that?
Does it feel a little too corny to take seriously?
I’ll be the first to admit that I feel a little uncomfortable asking myself the question. It is much more awkward writing about it. It is corny, yes, but I am beginning to learn it’s seriousness as well. I’ll get to why in a minute, but I’m still not sure that we’re on the same page yet.
Here, let me help a little with the awkwardness by asking.
HOW ARE YOU?
What do you feel?
Are you physically exhausted?
How’s your relationship with your teammates?
How’s your relationship with your family?
How’s your relationship with yourself?
I’ll let you in on a little something…your company, your team, and your family will suffer if you are not operating healthily. This is why the corny little question holds so much weight. Your value and contribution to others decrease as your welfare decreases. Your success in leading and uplifting others completely hangs on your ability to take care of yourself first. You must have “A” to give “B”.
Honestly, I’m probably not much of an expert in this particular area. I’m no good at things such as taking a true mental break from work, so occasionally I’m not very present with my own family. I’m pretty bad at asking for help and I like to take care of things myself, even to the detriment of my own safety (electrical work for example). Most of us who are passionate about the growth of others struggle with taking care of ourselves and those closest to us. We want to give everything we have all of the time and we feel that we are selfish if we pull away to recharge. I don’t even like to take a moment to self-evaluate, but I’ve learned that it has to be done.
CEOs, Managers, Bosses, Family Heads…I hope you will take some time, pull away, and prepare yourself for whatever challenges you plan to encounter next. You have probably been neglecting yourself. Prepare your family for what you see coming in the near future. Make sure that you and your home are in proper order and well defended against the storms (If you want to know more about how to break away like the pros read Tanya Benedicto Klich’s article from Entrepreneur Magazine here).
Today I want to encourage you to be focused on your own well-being and healthy productivity so that you can pass happiness and healthy productivity to others.